I think we can all agree here….2016 has been a heck of a year. For better or for worse, 2016 has seriously done a number on me. Yes, all the celebrity deaths have been tragic but I’ve also dealt with lots of personal struggles (and triumphs too!)
Back in January, I struggled to find a “word of the year” – typically that’s a hot topic for blogging at the start of the new year, but for some reason I wanted to keep it to myself. I told a few close friends, but I just didn’t feel inclined to share it. I think part of me was nervous I would fail, but honestly, part of me just…wanted to keep it to myself. I pride myself in transparency, but keeping this to myself was a form of self care. Also my word is kind of a buzzword right now, which just felt a little pretentious.
Honestly it’s nothing super personal – my word for 2016 is “curate.” It took me quite a while to find that perfect word, but I settled on curate for a few reasons. 1. It meant ridding myself of unnecessary things in my life. 2. It meant caring for the things that are in my life and cultivating them into something important.
I’ve always been a person who says yes to (too many) things. I love trying new projects and I love running businesses but goodness gracious, enough was enough. At the start of 2016, in addition to running this blog, I was working a full time job, running an Etsy shop and also running a floral business. There’s literally no way I was doing a good job at any of them.
The wedding floral business was becoming especially frustrating for me – I knew I wasn’t doing the best job I could do simply because I didn’t have the time I needed to communicate with brides. I also wasn’t really interested in building it into a full time business. So I let it go. This was absolutely terrifying…I had been building this business for more than five years. But my passion just wasn’t there anymore.
I also decided to shut down my Etsy shop (and FINALLY did it this past week). Another bummer because I was sooooo excited about this idea when I first started, but it just wasn’t for me. I opened that shop a few years ago when I was at a soul sucking job working as a bank teller and I’m just not in that place anymore. I have a new creative outlet that is much better for me.
Don’t you worry though, I’m keeping this blog because I honestly love doing it. I love being able to provide something of value for people that costs them nothing. I love talking about clothes and makeup – and talking to people who actually care about it. I love showing women that they are beautiful just the way they are, I love working with other businesses and I love meeting other bloggers. Also, straight up, I love being able to make money blogging because it’s something I love but it’s also HARD work.
So I guess I could say – 2016 has been good. It’s over halfway done but I’ve still got room to grow. I’m going to continue to curate and I’m going to continue to say no in order to protect the things that already occupy space in my life. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
- Are you a “yes man” to a fault like me?
- How do you say no to something you might enjoy that you simply don’t have time for?
PS I made this for you.