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Top and jeans c/o Modcloth
Loving your body isn’t always easy, is it? I preach body positivity a lot but do I always live it? Nope. It’s something I’ve struggled with for a long time (and I think I’ve mentioned it here before) and I will probably continue to struggle with it.
I’ve been working out regularly for almost two full years now. I’m WAY stronger than I was before I started but if you look at me…honestly, you can’t tell. And this is not a cry for compliments, just speaking the truth. I’m really strong, objectively I’m in better shape than I’ve ever been but walking down the street no one would ever think “wow I bet she works out, she looks super strong.” This irritates me to no end.
Some people are just naturally thin or naturally muscular. Honestly, I didn’t really pay attention to this until the last year or so. I always thought that the other girls and women who were super trim and “in shape” watched what they ate and worked out all the time. I thought I wasn’t as good as them. It lowered my self worth. Until I saw other bloggers talk about how they ate whatever they wanted and never worked out…it was a total lightbulb moment for me. Their bodies are just built differently. And if you’re like me and you’ve always carried a bit of extra weight, it’s a really hard concept to grasp. It doesn’t seem fair. Because we are told that if we just work out and eat right, we can look like that too. But in reality, some people just look like that! It doesn’t make their bodies any more valuable than ours.
I just wanted to share this to tell you that you’re not alone. Soooo many of us struggle with body image issues and it’s hard. Working out is changing who I am on the inside. I am gaining confidence. I sleep better. I have more stamina. I’m less anxious. The scale hasn’t really moved much and it’s something I have to be okay with. I should work out to be the best version of myself, not to have a body that looks like what society deems beautiful.
I am learning to love my body as it is RIGHT NOW and not what I think it *should* look like. I can be body positive all day long to other people, but treating my own body the same way is the challenge.
Body positivity is slowly becoming more “mainstream,” but ModCloth has been on the right track for quite some time. In addition to having super cute styles, one of the best things about ModCloth is they offer a full range of sizes (XXS-4XL) on their site. It’s one thing to claim to be body positive, it’s another to actually practice what you preach, and ModCloth does just that.
This top was practically SCREAMING my name, I had to get it! The flowy peplum is so cute and comfortable and the scalloped collar is giving me major Wednesday Addams vibes. Last but not least….the embroidered skulls!!! As the self appointed Halloween Queen, it was a must have. I paired it with these fray jeans – something that has been on my list for quite some time. I was so stoked to see they fit like a glove! I was a little nervous about the sizing but the size chart on ModCloth’s website did not steer me wrong.
I guess what I’m trying to say is…love your body, babes. And if you’re looking for some new duds, shop at ModCloth.